tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post721732428174779981..comments2023-04-05T04:34:07.351-04:00Comments on To Baby and Beyond: I hate to think this but... (kids mentioned)Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03661220372372737455noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-70614893865816343102008-11-25T21:34:00.000-05:002008-11-25T21:34:00.000-05:00That does not make you a terrible person at all, i...That does not make you a terrible person at all, it makes you human.<BR/><BR/>Hugs hugs,<BR/>KahlaKahlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09062732728748588097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-87745548338445850442008-11-25T18:49:00.000-05:002008-11-25T18:49:00.000-05:00Infertility can do crazy stuff to a person and mak...Infertility can do crazy stuff to a person and make them feel things that they never would have thought before. You are definitely not alone in having thoughts like those and it's totally normal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-78105694952596664762008-11-25T03:22:00.000-05:002008-11-25T03:22:00.000-05:00I know what you mean. My baby sister had a baby th...I know what you mean. My baby sister had a baby this past March and it felt so strange. I remember right before we adopted her my mom kept telling me she would bet that she had a baby before I did (I was 17 and didn't figure my mom was trying to adopt). Now here's my sister 21 years later having a baby and I still don't have one. I even did a moment a couple months ago where my best friend who is my age and definitely done having children did the "Guess what my surprise is" and my response was please don't tell me your pregnant. She looked at me a little odd. Turns out her and her husband were buying a new sailboat.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-13501689200254489392008-11-25T00:33:00.000-05:002008-11-25T00:33:00.000-05:00It does not make you a terrible person! I complete...It does not make you a terrible person! I completely understand your feelings.<BR/><BR/>I'm waiting for my brother and his g/f to tell us, "Oops, we did it again!" anytime now. I'm sure it won't be long... I don't like sitting on that dread, or thinking that... but I think it's normal. It's almost like a natural instinct, a self defense mechanism maybe? I'm not sure ... but sending you hugs.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-21853031187554392132008-11-24T19:59:00.000-05:002008-11-24T19:59:00.000-05:00You aren't a terrible person you are a NORMAL HUMA...You aren't a terrible person you are a NORMAL HUMAN BEING! Trust me I was THRILLED when my older sister had her tubes tied! <BR/><BR/>Your sisters new voice mail message is hysterical. Love it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-5618938234844851562008-11-24T18:03:00.000-05:002008-11-24T18:03:00.000-05:00Oh my goodness! You're clearly a wonderful auntie ...Oh my goodness! You're clearly a wonderful auntie (and that would be really hard for many of us!) and as others have said, your feelings are human, maybe a way to protect yourself, all of the above.<BR/><BR/>My (adopted) daughter is seven and I still have those pangs of jealousy!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-65029472246585185542008-11-24T12:06:00.000-05:002008-11-24T12:06:00.000-05:00OMG, the cell phone thing is awful but hilarious! ...OMG, the cell phone thing is awful but hilarious! I probably would have jumped in the water after mine because I feel like my entire life is in my phone. I don't even know my husband's work number -- it's just speed-dial #3!<BR/><BR/>You are not a bad person for not wanting to hear pg news from your sister, and for your sake I'm glad you don't have to. We all go through this! I am currently feeling so guilty because a friend of mine has been trying to reach me since June (seriously), and because I know from Facebook that he and his wife are pregnant, I avoid him. Eventually I'm just going to have to tell him what's up and it's going to suck. Anyway, don't stress about it. Just one of the many sucky things about IF.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03139221192210606906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-50171894391276954062008-11-24T11:47:00.000-05:002008-11-24T11:47:00.000-05:00Too funny! I just picture the cell phone ringing a...Too funny! I just picture the cell phone ringing at the bottom of the sea:) <BR/><BR/>I would also have a feeling of relief to hear that there is no longer a possibility of seeing my sister pg:( Don't beat yourself up over it. ICLWAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15562632961017557963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-84210555756750784842008-11-24T10:33:00.000-05:002008-11-24T10:33:00.000-05:00I know the feeling, I was actually trying to talk ...I know the feeling, I was actually trying to talk my sister out of TTC, she'd only been married 3 months. I was filled with conflicting emotions. I love her and want her happy. I just know I can't do what she did.Noemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14620830323590204626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-4790211663242826092008-11-24T09:16:00.000-05:002008-11-24T09:16:00.000-05:00OMG that is too funny, I can almost picture that s...OMG that is too funny, I can almost picture that scence with my own son.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758577356259866292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-36726035539889359062008-11-24T00:09:00.000-05:002008-11-24T00:09:00.000-05:00I agree. It doesn't make you evil. It is an hone...I agree. It doesn't make you evil. It is an honest human reaction to something that is so heartbreaking to so many of us. It doesn't make anyone evil to think that way orr take away the fact that we love the children that are in our lives.Eskimo_Kisses_4_Uhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03186512830702712769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-56517266936135023532008-11-23T22:08:00.000-05:002008-11-23T22:08:00.000-05:00I agree with the other commenters. I think most o...I agree with the other commenters. I think most of us who have been thru this understand that sentiment. I think it makes us all feel less alone when we know that one more person on earth isn't producing babies. A natural human reaction.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03081973190512198022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-57072276426559875402008-11-23T20:09:00.000-05:002008-11-23T20:09:00.000-05:00To put this in perspective...how would you react t...To put this in perspective...how would you react to this type of information from someone that wan't your relative. Exactly the same, right? So, you have always been happy for her cause she's your sis, but you gut reaction is still there - and totally ok!Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-762582980462024372008-11-23T19:57:00.000-05:002008-11-23T19:57:00.000-05:00ITA with Kristin. You are not bad, you just have ...ITA with Kristin. You are not bad, you just have to protect your heart while you navigate IF. I think you do an excellent job of bonding with your nephews during this really difficult phase of your life. You are to be commended, they obviously love you, and for good reason!Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964875388384777306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-89107711321683430512008-11-23T19:47:00.000-05:002008-11-23T19:47:00.000-05:00Its hard to feel that way but it seems to be our h...Its hard to feel that way but it seems to be our heart and mind's way of protecting us. {{{Hugs}}}Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-48298139446354192682008-11-23T19:26:00.000-05:002008-11-23T19:26:00.000-05:00The same thing has happened to me. I want to be a...The same thing has happened to me. I want to be a good person, but I have the hardest time being genuinely happy for other people and their pregnancies. Not only am I infertile but I have apparently also turned evil.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509124764568535676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-81054167424678028772008-11-23T18:37:00.000-05:002008-11-23T18:37:00.000-05:00I agree with April. I would've freaked out if my ...I agree with April. I would've freaked out if my sister told me she was pregnant (especially since I know she's on birth control). Here from ICLW.Elana Kahnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17800005978714797988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6685829644342774032.post-3036574568090184702008-11-23T18:24:00.000-05:002008-11-23T18:24:00.000-05:00oh girl...that doesn't make you a terrible person....oh girl...that doesn't make you a terrible person. how are you supposed to deal with stuff like that when you are going through IF? you are NORMAL :)Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15284888960220424566noreply@blogger.com