Saturday, April 11, 2009

Think before you speak

So when i went to the pain specialist last week I was greeted by an extremely pregnant woman. Let the fun begin... She starts talking about how she is do any minute and she CAN"T wait to have this baby because it has just been HORRIBLE! (I just not and smile politely but think shut up and get out). She talked about how she gets pregnant just by looking at her husband (thanks. Just what I want to hear.) Finally she stopped talking long enough to get some info from me and told me the doctor would be right in. I am not sure why she felt the need in the 10 minutes I was with her to give me her life (or last 9 mo) story but really? I know that when/if I am pregnant I will not talk about it to a complete stranger unless asked.

Queue doctor coming in...

Go through all my stuff and he is walking me to the room where I will get my shot and he says...

So who is taking care of your kids while you have been laid up?

I say: Don't have any
think: A%$#$le don't just assume I have children. I have already had it rubbed in my face once today.

Doctor: Well you are so lucky! You have things easy!

I say: Nothing
think: Yea if you consider 2 miscarriages, 2 ectopics, and the inability to have children and must pay 10's of thousands of dollars to have the HOPE of having a child lucky then I am the luckiest girl in the world.

People really need to think before they speak.

19 comments:

Mommy In Waiting said...

I am sorry these people suck so bad. I would honestly complain and change doctors. It might be the only doc you know for this purpose, but you shouldn't have to be subject to ignorance.

much love your way

Kate said...

What a douchebag. I would have REALLY had to hold myself back on that remark. My sarcasm isn't easily tamed. At least you have some restraint...;o)

CJ said...

Oh my... that woman was ridiculous, but the doctor was just UNBELIEVABLE! Wow, I'm furious for you. LUCKY?! Bastard.

S said...

That is so friggen annoying.

I hate hearing the "your lucky you don't have children". It's a fucking crock.

Hugs
S X

Dora said...

Damn! That's seriously sucky! Sorry you had to deal with that.

Living With Loss said...

Hi there

I've just found your blog and wanted to say I'm sorry for all you've been through and are going through. I've had 3 miscarriages so can understand some of what you've endured.

I wish you luck on your journey from here.

And I agree - people really should think before they speak!

Cara said...

1. I CAN'T believe you didn't say anything - or at the very least throw him a s.u.ck-it look.

2. You just promoted on of my to-do-before-i-die items: MANDITORY SENSATIVITY TRAINING FOR ALL MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS!!!!!

Melissa said...

that had to be so f-in irritating!

I'm sorry :(

Another Dreamer said...

Ungh! Sorry hun :( They really do need to think before they speak.

bir said...

It seems that people will NEVER understand to think before they speak, because they don't know about 'the other side of the story'. But I really wish that we could just speak before we think, and say those things. In the name of educating the naive, and putting our inners in a better place!

battynurse said...

Ugg. People can be so stupid. I think I would have at least said something to the doctor about how I didn't feel lucky considering how hard I'd been trying or something.

'Murgdan' said...

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! Bitch.

strongblonde said...

arg. two completely retarded people within an hour??? that's too much!

Monica LeMoine said...

Uggh! You're right - people just don't think before they talk/act!

chicklet said...

I hate the assumption that we have kids, but I also hate the assumption that we want kids and if we don't "hurry" our lives will be over. People are just blatantly putting their views of the world onto us without even knowing what we've gone through or what might privately be going on.

Shannon said...

Both of them are a-holes. I'm guessing they don't know about your history, but still. My primary doctor knows what I've been through and he manages to minimize it as if it's no big deal. I know I should talk, but we (the babylost) should really start to speak up otherwise these a-holes will just continue with their verbal diarrhea.

Stacey said...

Wow. I have to agree with Shannon, although I'm definitely guilty of keeping my mouth shut a lot of the time when people are insensitive.

Sorry you had to experience those back-to-back!

Good Egg Hunting said...

You showed incredible restraint in not saying anything to him. You are a better woman than I, who would have used it as a "teachable moment," i.e. teach him to never utter such moronic chatter with a woman of childbearing age again.

Barb said...

YES. They do.