Driving myself crazy!

This week has been kind of a crazy week. My mom had to fly down to Florida because my grandmother is not doing well at all. They are trying to figure out what to do with her since she can not be alone because she can't take care of herself. It is basically a mess and it is very aggravating to me the way my mom and Aunts are handling this but anyway...

So my mother has a job where she delivers and picks up parts from transmission shops basically all over the southern half of our state. It is crazy that she does this. I mean she drives thousands and thousands of miles a month and does not make hardly any money for it especially when you figure she basically has to get a new car every year because driving this much ruins her cars. Plus the gas, regular maintenance and the time. We have tried to tell her it makes no sense that she does this job but she does not listen. So anyway, this last week she told them she had to go to Florida to see her mother that was sick and they told her she had to find someone to cover for her and do her route. Now this route goes hours away from where she lives and she has to do it EVERY DAY. She told them off and told them they would have to find someone because they could not prevent her from going since it was an emergency. She then thought since I needed some money and I could use her car she asked me if I wanted to do it. My first reaction was NO WAY! But after some thought I realized I could use some extra money due to my current financial situation and since it really would not do anything to me because I would use her car I thought sure I would do it.

Well, let me tell you...that job sucks. First my mom tells me how she loves the new car she got. I HATE it!!! I felt like I was fighting with the car the whole time about whether or not it wanted to stay on the road. Of course I got all the stops that she said she hoped I would not get since they were so far away and hard to find. I also am a person that gets stressed out when I am driving in unfamiliar territory. Once I have been there once it is not bad but if I have no idea I HATE IT! Well seeing as so far on the 2 days I have done it all the stops have been different except one it has not been easy. On the first day after driving forever I got to the last stop and realized that I forgot to pick up a part at the previous stop I then had to backtrack 35 miles and go pick it up. It sucked! Plus I was using my moms GPS and when I had it take me home it led me right into construction hell. It took forever to get home. I would have used my phone GPS that tells when there is a traffic back up or construction but I do not have a car charger for it yet so the phone would have died when I needed it most. So there I was stuck and going crazy. It was very FRUSTRATING!

Then yesterday it was stormy and rainy and the GPS kept going out on me. I would call my mother and she tried to tell me she never had that problem with GPS on rainy days but I find that hard to believe. It did clear up later and I was able to finish without having to call my mom every 5 minutes to find out where to go. All I have to say is THANK GOD for GPS! I would have never done it had it not been for that wonderful piece of technology.

So I have 1 more day on Monday to do this and then I am done. The only thing I worry about is now my mom is talking about all this time she wants to take off and have me fill in. I told her I did want to do it for the next 24 days so I could make enough for my bankruptcy. She laughed so I am taking that as a No. Oh well, pray that Monday goes better then Thurs and Fri. went.

Today, I am feeling crappy! My sinuses are horrible and I feel like someone has knocked me over the head. tomorrow is mother's day and since my mom is not around I will be going to MIL's and I am nervous about that. We still have not talked to her and it is going to get quite unavoidable since she is expecting us to make our monthly payment to her. UGH!

I do have to say that this last week has not been the dreaded week before Mother's Day it usually is. I think its has made a big difference not working. There is no one around that is constantly saying, "what are your mother's day plans...etc"  So that is good...I guess.

Anyway, I hope all is well your way and for all the Mothers I really hope you have a WONDERFUL MOTHER"S DAY!

xxooxxoo

Bankruptcy drama

So how is everyone doing? Me I am ok I guess. I have been dealing with the whole bankruptcy thing. We ended up finding a new lawyer because the last one ended up being an idioutt. This new one is great! He gave us some good news and some bad. The good news is we can claim chapter 7 which I am very happy about. the bad part is...well a little back story.

We borrowed some money from my MIL to help purchase our car after our last one was repoed. Well it turns out that the courts may go after her for the money we have paid her and slit it between my creditors. Our lawyer told us not to pay her any more money until after we are discharged. He said to tell her that if they do go after her that we will pay her back that money as well, which obviously we will but I am TERRIFIED to tell her. I am trying to get hubby to go have a talk with her WITHOUT me. I am afraid that she blames me for all of this and she is already not happy that we are declaring bankruptcy. We have no choice though. If we do not do the bankruptcy soon we won't be able to pay her back because they are going to be garnishing hubby's wages. We received notice that they entered a default judgment against for the car so it is only a matter of weeks before they start taking there money. We also have to figure out how to pull 1200 dollars out of our butt to start the process. I am not sure how we are going to do this. It is constantly on my mind and I am so stressed out!!!!! I guess asking my MIL to borrow the money is kinds out of the question...lol we are screwed. I keep trying to tell myself this will pass. Once we get through this hard part a lot of pressure will be taken off of shoulders but that just seems so far away right now.

We went and celebrated BIL's b-day today. My nephews were cute as always. We babysat on Friday and then I saw them yesterday but when I walked in today No.ah said to me " I missed you Aunt Shell". Aww that just melts my heart. I made the cutest recording on my phone of him saying his ABC's. It is the cutest ABC's ever. I listen to it all the time just to bring a smile to my face. I am trying to figure out how to get on my computer so I can share it here. When I figure it out I will post.

Well, that is pretty much all that is going on here. Hockey is starting and as many of you probably know it is my favorite time...hockey playoffs and my Red Wings are playing. Go WINGS!!!


If anyone has any advice on how to break this to my MIL PLEASE let me know. I can use all the advice I can get.

I hope all is well with you!

xxooxxoo

Nice weekend

I had a very nice 4th of July. It was a nice distraction to the anniversary I was dreading. I did have a flash Friday when I heard fireworks going off of last year. I was sitting on my porch with DH while the fireworks were going off. In our neighborhood it is like the first day of the war in Bagh.dad. We don't need to go to fireworks shows because we have them in my neighboorhood. My poor dog is just terrified! Anyway, I was sitting on the porch reading one of my many books on infertility, miscarriages, and PCOS. I was searching and searching for anyway that the pregnancy was not ending. Any sign that the doctors had it all wrong. Somehow it just had to be wrong! I could not be going through this for the 4th time. As you all now how it ended up, I did not find the answer I was searching for and 3 days later I went for my methotre.xate shot and just like that it was over. I never even had time to hope or be excited because I pretty much found out it was ectopic the day after I got a positive pregnancy test. At the time it just seemed so cruel...why even give me a positive test when it wasn't even going to last. I know now it was to save me from much worse because if the ectopic went on then I probably would have lost a tube or something. Luckily they caught it early enough. I guess that is one good thing about going through all this. I am pretty in tune to what is going on with my body.

Anyway, yesterday was nice. We went to my MIL and my SIL was there with her 2 month old. Surprisingly I did not have a hard time with it. The baby was just so CUTE! I think he is one of the most well behaved babies I have ever seen. He did not cry all day! All he did was smile and let out little giggles. I had a nice talk with my MIL. She is having a hard time because she had to put her mom in a nursing home. But let me tell you it is a very nice place. I was very surprised because it was covered by Medi.ca1d and I just pictured most of those as not good places. She feels guilty but I think it is the best thing for her. She will have people to talk to and to take care of her. They have a movie place, bowling lanes, ice cream parlor, rec room, they take them on shopping trips. It sounds and looks nice. It is close by us so DH and I are going to visit often.

So we BBQed and then last night went to my sisters and played with my nephews and then we played cards when the kids went to bed. Today I woke up and decided to pull everything out of my kitchen cabinets and scrub them down. It always seems like a good idea until you are about half way through and then realize you really do not want to do this anymore. I do feel so much better though. They really needed it. I think I am going to do that with everything in my house and just take it bit by bit rather then all in one day. I have the time now since I do not have a job. I feel guilty if I don't do anything and hubby is out working.

That is all I have for now. I hope you all had a great weekend!

Not a bad Mot.hers day

Had a pretty uneventful weekend. Yesterday was ok. We went to my sis's for brunch which was nice. I am liking this brunch thing because then we have time to see both my mom and MIL, not to mention the food is great. we had baked French toast. Have you ever had it? OMG it is AWESOME!!!! Anyway so we went there for a while and then we went to MIL. Surprisingly enough I had a good time at MIL house. The last few time I went over there has been nice. I think it is because it has just been DH and I. His family all together sometimes can be a lot to take.

Anyway we went there and then his step dad took us all out to dinner at this bar they like to go to. They had a nice buffet and it was good!! We stayed and watch the hockey game and the Red Wings won so it was a lot of fun!

MIL is driving down to Ok1ahoma to watch my niece graduate. Apparently she is going to come up here to go to college and live with MIL. I feel so bad for my niece. Her parents are both nuts. She definitely got the short end of the stick. I was sure she was going to be on drugs, pregnant, or run away by the time she was 16. Instead she turned out to be a well adjusted young lady with a good head on her shoulders. I am very proud of her! I can not believe she is graduating. I remember when she was 2. It seems like just yesterday. How fast they grow up. It is a shame that some people just do not appreciate that.

So I just want to send a Congratulations to A! I am very proud of you and I can't wait to spend time with you when you come home.