Showing posts with label back pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label back pain. Show all posts

Monday, April 20, 2009

Back to our regular scheduled programming

Ok I think we got the problem. I am feeling about 70% better. I was so excited that I felt better I went al out this weekend. Hubby and I had a great weekend. We went to the casino and won 2 days in a row and we went to the Red Wings Playoff game and they won. I found a FABULOUS bakery that had all kinds of goodies. So all in all it was a good weekend. Not to mention a lot less pain.

Today I went back to work. I have been wanting to go because I have been sick of sitting on my couch in my cocoon all day but now that I am feeling better I really did not want to go back. Today was a long day because I had to go through about 7000 emails and get set back up for virtually everything because they deactivated me. It was weird because when I am there it feels like same old same old everyday but being gone I realized how much everything changes on a daily basis. Almost everything changed while I was gone so I will spend the next few days trying to learn how to do all the new systems along with all the STUPID rules they decided to implement while I was gone. Also they changed my whole teams seats to the other side of the building. I no longer have my beautiful view. I knew they were going to move and before I left I sat down with my boss and came up with a great seating plan to which they proceeded to COMPLETELY change while I was gone. I think they were just waiting for that chance. Oh well I guess that is what I get for being gone for 2 months. With the way things change at my company I probably won't have to wait long for it to change again.

So I am happy to be back to normal. My hubby picks me up for work and says he is going to take the rest of the week off. I say why? he says I need a break. I say why didn't you do that while I was off? He says..."THAT WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN A VACATION"... what a funny, funny man I am married to.

I do have to say Thank you to him because he did so much for me while I was laid up and with virtually no serious complaints. he is a wonderful man I thank God for him everyday. I love you hunny!

Soon it will be on to fertility once again. From one frying pan to the next. Gotta love it!

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Shocking news...A doctor listened to me! YAY!

So I think we finally got it!!! I think I am on the road to recovery...at least I better be because I am going back to work on Monday. I went on Wednesday to get a shot and funny thing I actually had a doctor who listened. Shocker...I know. Anyway, I have been showing and telling doctors where the pain is for 2 months now and this one actually got IT. She said after listening to me and reviewing everything that it wasn't ACTUALLY the BACK. When I feel of my porch I landed on the right knee and jambed my hip into the porch...this jambed my hip bone which goes to the back I guess (it starts with an S) and it is pinching the nerve that starts with an S. So they gave me a shot in the RIGHT place and said to go home and rest. They said the next few days would probably be worse and TRUST me it was. I could not walk AT ALL. One the sedation wore off the pain was like my normal pain times 100. But I took that as a good sign to mean that they got the right place. Everyday has been getting a little better and in fact tonight I am going to the Red Wings playoff hockey game. I don't feel back to normal just yet but hopefully tonight will not be too bad. We should have fun at the game! So I should be getting back to my normal blogging schedule and you will hopefully not have to listen to any more of me moaning about this pain. Please try to control your excitement. :) Sorry I have been a bad blogger as of late but I will get caught up soon. I hope you all have a great weekend!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Frustrated but hopeful

I hope everyone had a nice Easter. We did. My sis decided to start a new tradition and she had brunch. This way everyone could come over and still go other places if need be. So we went there for brunch which was great! The kids were cute as always! I just love them so much! Then we went to MIL for dinner. This time it was GREAT because it was just my DH and I. So we had a very nice dinner and conversation without all the BS from everyone else in his family. My SIL is about to have her baby any minute so I was glad that she was not there so I did not have to deal with it this time.

Tomorrow I am going to a different Pain Specialist and they are suppose to give me some other shot that is suppose to work with the shot I had last week. I am feeling a little better but not a lot. So hopefully after tomorrow I will feel completely better.

I got a call from my OB and now she says my ultrasound was fine and that I should maybe have a laproscopy done since I have had the ectopics and to check for endo. I went to pick up my records in case I need them for my short term and in them there was the ultrasound report which states. Unable to diagnose due to unclear pictures of uterus and ovaries. They did detect a cyst but could not tell what exactly it was and that they recommend a laproscopy. WTF? Why 3 different stories? Why was I not told this to begin with? I tried to call my RE to see if I could see him this week but he is of course out on vacation. So if my shots don't work tomorrow then I will be seeing him soon to talk about the laproscopy. If they do work then I will wait for a bit but I am still going to see about the laproscopy. I am planning on the shots working and going back to work next week.

This whole thing has been very frustrating and I just want it to be over and get back to a normal pain free (or I will take mostly pain free) life.

Wish me luck tomorrow.

Monday, March 30, 2009

Worst place for an infertile

"I haven't been here since that day." I said.

DH: " I know. I remember too well."

Then silence for the rest of our 40 minute drive to my OB's office. My OB was not available so they had another one check me out today. This is office is in the same building as my PCP however it is on the 2nd floor. I had not been THERE since THAT day and until the moment I walked into the office I never gave it a second thought.

"I think I will need to update my information. I haven't been here since 2006." I said.

As I was updating my information and watching smiling pregnant women walk in and out and still smiling. It amazed me. I don't think that has really ever happened to me. To walk in to an OB's office smiling and to walk out smiling. I wonder what that would feel like? Man this has to be the worst waiting room for an infertile...back to the paperwork and my favorite questions on every medical form..."How many pregnancies?"...4...."How many births?"...uh lets see uh 0000.

Finally, done they call me back to the office and I explain everything to the nurse. Back pain blah, blah, blah...something on right ovary blah, blah, blah...infertility treatments, miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies. The nurse says " I am so sorry you have had to go through all that...Is it expensive?"...Yes (thinking please leave and don't ask me anymore). She did, thank God after Oh yea I forgot..."Are you pregnant?"...um did you not hear what I just said...infertile in the room. I say "No." She says "How do you know?" Well if the infertile thing did not clue you in then lets just say if there was one then it is long gone due to all levels of radiation, x-rays, mri's, CT scans. Not to mention the hundreds of pregnancy tests every dr wants to do...just in case I am that one person we all have heard that gets pregnant when they are not even "thinking" about it. (You know that happens all the time...I wish)

Anyway, finally she leaves I go do my "pregnancy" test. Which by the way was a fiasco in and of itself that I will tell some other time. So I come back to the room and I am sitting there alone and the tears come flooding out of nowhere. I'm thinking of the last time I sat in this room (or one similar) at this office. It was the only pregnancy that I got pregnant on my own and it was almost exactly 3 yrs ago (03/14/06). They referred me to my now RE and said we think this is an ectopic but it is in a weird place. We can't see very well with our machines you need to go to a specialist. You will not be able to HAVE THIS BABY. (this one is that implanted in my cervix) I look at the walls lined with baby announcements and thank you cards saying how wonderful they were and how beautiful their babies are and I WANT that to be me! I NEED that to be me!!!!

My doctor comes in and I explain everything to her. I tell her I usually have a million ultrasounds a month but I have been on break since July because that was my 4th loss and I needed to regroup. She grabs my hand and says, "I so understand what you are feeling! I have had 4 losses myself and I know how hard it is." I couldn't believe my ears a doctor who REALLY knows how I feel. You could see it in her eyes and the way she spoke...she did KNOW and she hurt too. I asked, "How do you work here?" (I was thinking, this has got to be the worst place to work for an infertile. I think I would go crazy. I can't even be in the room for 5 minutes without bawling my eyes out). She said it took her a while and a lot of soul searching and she did end up adopting 2 wonderful children. She said that she has tough days but for the most part it isn't bad. She even had my same RE. So needless to say I am going to make her my primary OB...if I ever need one again. Hopefully I will for a good reason. A reason for me to walk in the door smiling and leave smiling. That is my dream and I hope and pray it happens one day.





PS I have to go on Friday for an ultrasound with a better ultrasound. They said theirs doesn't show things very well. She said she can definitely feel something different on my right side and since I have been doing infertility treatments they want to make sure it is not ovari.an can.cer. She says she DOES NOT think it is and if it is it would be very early but they just want to make sure. So I have to wait again. I am still suppose to be scheduled for the pain specialist next week. Relief I am on my way....

Saturday, March 28, 2009

YAY finally SOME (not all) answers

Not much to report. I did go see my doctor today and she gave some answers as to why things are going the way they are. Basically she thinks I have severe sciatica and something else I can not pronounce. she said she is not that concerned about what they found on my ovary but she does not want to rule it out for fear that she may be wrong and therefore that is why I am going to the ob. If the OB gives that everything is going well with my girl parts then FINALLY she is going to send me to a pain specialist. I originally thought I went there in the first place but that was not the case. She said the pain specialist can A. give me a nerve block right in the spot where it hurts (which I have not gotten yet). B. Somehow burn the nerve (little scared as to how you do that). So I have hope that I am going to start feeling better soon! I was starting to think I was crazy. She assured me I was not. She said the reason we have been going through all this other stuff before sending me to a pain specialist was because they wanted to rule out all the bad stuff before making me pain free. She said pain is there to tell you something is wrong and if we numbed that pain and then found out something was seriously wrong then there would be problems. I think that is perfectly logical, however, I just wonder why she did not explain this to me in the first place.

I finally got my short term disability approved and received a check...whew! That takes a load off my mind. In a couple weeks I will have a new baby in the house. Well a baby of the furry variety. My MIL is going down south to see my niece graduate so she is bringing her puppy pomeranian. Oh he is so cute however he is a puppy and therefore very wild! It will be interesting to see how my 2 dogs and cat will react to him when he comes over.

I am so bummed, it has been so nice here the last week or so and now tonight we are suppose to get rain and tomorrow snow! Come on it is spring it is not time for snow anymore. :(

I know you are all getting sick of the back pain woes, so hopefully it will be getting better soon. Then I can start back with the infertile woes. The one good thing about the back pain is it has really had me less focused on my lack of babies and more thankful that I can lay in bed and not worry about taking care of children. However I would much rather it be the other way around.

Well I hope you all have a great weekend!

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

The other side of adoption

I have been a horrible ICLWer this month. :( I have not been writing as much as I would like but I have been not doing to well with my back. It looks like I will not make Iron Commenter for the first time since starting. I broke my record of 6 months in a row. :( Oh well I hope to be better next month. (I better be). I got the results of my CT scan and they said they found something on my right ovary and they want me to go to mt OBGYN so they can look into it further. I tried asking questions but the nurse knew nothing and said if I wanted more info I should make an appointment to see the doctor. This is why my doctor drives me nuts! When I go to see her she is great and listens and seems to care but when I try to get any other info or do anything without seeing her first I ALWAYS get the the run around. It is frustrating to say the least. I made an appointment for Saturday and I am now sick and tired of this so I have made a list of questions and concerns that I am going to run through with her on Saturday. My appt with the OBGYN is Monday and I am trying not to worry too much because I have to think that if it was really bad she would have told me herself already, but who knows with her. I hope it is just something to do with my PCOS and that whatever it is will be the explanation for my pain and they can fix it. Keep your fingers crossed.

Anyway, the other day I watched MT.v's Tru.e L1fe. I am pretty much a regular watcher of this show and on the weekend they had one focusing on women who were giving their babies up for adoption. I watched it and it freaked me out! They showed 2 women, I believe both were in their early 20's. One was giving her baby to a distant relative (I think) and the other found a couple on the internet. I wish they would do a show about the ones that were doing the adopting but I do know this is a show mainly focused on teens and early 20 somethings. It was interesting to look at it from the perspective of the girls giving up their babies. How difficult it is for them to do so. In the end, stop if you don't want to know what happens. The girl who was giving to her relatives ended up going through with it and the girl who found the couple on line did not. She ended up leaving the baby with the father who was already raising 1 child. It was the complete opposite of what I thought would happen. The 1 who went through with it was doing a open adoption and she saw the baby once every 2 weeks. Which I think I would want to do open adoption as well. But again I have not done all that much research yet on either way.The couple that were adopting seemed amazingly patient and understanding of her struggle. Before she had the baby she was positive on the adoption but once she had her she needed time to think about it.

This is what scares me about adoption. I have always been someone that would consider adoption. I would love to give a home to a someone who would not normally have one. I don't have tons of hang ups about having a child that is related by blood to me or my DH. I mean it is of course a preference if at all possible but I really just would like to have children. My hang ups for adoption is the money, and the long grueling process (or so it seems to me). Getting my heart set and going through all the emotions and pulling all the strings, jumping through all the hoops and then the person changes her mind. I mean I know it has to be difficult for the ones that are giving up their babies and it is not something I think about very much when I think about adoption. I always kind of think about my side of things, forgetting all about the other side. I guess though it is a risk you take no matter whether you go through adoption or IVF...there are no guarantees in life. It sucks though to shell out tons of money for what most people can do without even a thought. To get your hopes up and then have the rug pulled out from under you. It scares the CRAP out of me!

Over all I thought the show was ok. It definitely lets you think about the other side of things and how brave these women are to not take the easy way out and to think of their baby and not necessarily of themselves first. I admire these women and the couples who adopt the babies. Both sides it takes amazing strength and patience. I only hope that if/when I get to this point I can be that kind of person.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Updates and EDDs

Today I went to see my doctor. They did an x-ray to see if I had any kidney stones and will tell me on Monday the results of that. She also did a pelvic exam and she pushed on my stomach and it felt more like she was stabbing me in the stomach. I actually cried out because of it. It surprised me because I have not been having abdominal pain at all. It has all been in my back. She said maybe it is referred pain and that is why the shots and everything else are not working. I am going to get a CT scan next Thursday to check my abdomen and pelvic area. It would be ironic if something was wrong in the pelvic area because I spend a lot of my time having ultrasounds in that area and now I have been on break since July and now there would be something wrong there? That would just be very weird. I do know though it should not feel like someone is stabbing me when doing that exam. So I guess I will have to deal with this for at least another week. The only reason I have to wait so long is because my insurance company can't approve the procedure until then. WTF? I just do not understand insurance companies most of the time. If my doctor says I need it then let me do it. It is not because I am going there to have fun and I have nothing else better to do. It just drives me crazy! I am sick of dealing with this and I want it fixed. I have done PT a couple times this week and I am also doing exercises at home so hopefully eventually I will feel better.

These last couple weeks I have had 2 EDD come and go. I did not really think of them at the time. I think because of all the pain I have been in. But I have been thinking about them the last couple days. If I would not have had my ectopic in July I would have a baby right now. I would be holding him/her. I would be loving and adoring him/her but now I am just stuck with what could of, SHOULD of been. I have been having a lot of dreams lately about babies and having babies. Some of them have been very weird. Maybe I will share sometime soon but I think I have been having them because of what I am missing right now.

My dearest Angels,

I just want to know how much I love you. Even though I never got to hold you or see you. Even though you were with me for only a short time I want you to know that I hold enough love in my heart for you for a whole lifetime. I think about you often and I wish it could have been different. I hope someday I will see you and be able to hold you but for now I will have to settle for seeing you in my dreams and holding you in my heart.

Love always,
Mommy

Monday, March 2, 2009

The results are in

I talked to the doctor today and good news...no surgery! YAY! He said I have a bulging disc pressing on the nerves that with some aggressive therapy we can fix it. I am so happy to hear that, I just want this fixed asap. On Thursday I am going to his office and he is going to do some shots. He said I will know by Friday or Saturday if they worked. If they don't work then I will have to do some physical therapy and he said that will definitely help. He said the good thing is, is that this CAN be fixed. Thank God! I just wish I did not have to wait until Thursday for the shots. I am hoping they work because paying 35.00 a pop to go to physical therapy 3-4 times a week does not sound good for my pocket book. Anyway, at least I have a workable plan that will get me feeling better and I can't wait! Thanks for all your well wishes.

Oh and last night my older dog Katie Jo had a seizure and it scared the crap out of me. She was fine one second and then the next she had foam pouring out of her mouth and her legs were going wild. then they became rigid and she wasn't moving. I thought I was watching her die. Then after about 5 minutes she just popped up and started running around the house like nothing happened. It scared me to death. She seems fine today. I hope that does not happen again. I had a dog that had seizures before but I don't remember anything like this. It was very scary. Anyway, I hope you all have a great week.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Short and sweet

So sorry I do not really have anything much to say because I haven't been doing anything. All I keep doing here is complaining about back pain but right now that is pretty much my life. I don't sleep very well and I can't sit for too long. It does not really matter what position I am in...it hurts...BAD! I am going back to the specialist tomorrow and hopefully he has something more for me because the steroids just did not cut it. Hubby has been so wonderful taking care of the house and me. I love him so much. Sorry this is short and sweet. I hope to be back to my normal self soon. I hope you are all having a nice ICLW and really if you are new to this blog I am not usually this boring (at least I hope not).

Thursday, February 19, 2009

On the road to recovery...hopefully!

My doctor got everything straightened out with my insurance and after about 5000 calls yesterday I got an appointment with a specialist this morning. He was great he listened, evaluated everything about my back pain and came up with a plan. YAY I am so happy! He gave me steroids today and said that he did not want to even mess around with so so pain killers and gave me good ones. He said he thinks it is a bulging or slipped disk, so he told me to take the meds and relax because he said if pressing on the right nerve it can be quite painful. Uh duh that is what I have been trying to say. He said if the meds don't help by next week then he will do an MRI and then we will probably try injections. He gave me exercises to do which is basically arching my back while on the floor. He said that helps because with a disk problem it pushes it back in when you do that. So I am going to start that, take the meds, and hopefully feel so much better....I can't wait!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Back pain sucks

I have not had a very good couple days and I feel like I am saying that a lot lately. UGH. Yesterday I had a very BAD day at work. Some crappy things happened that I am not very happy about but this being the internet and all, unfortunately I will leave it at that...but know I want to say so much more.

Today my back is in SO MUCH PAIN. I went to the dr to get some relief and it feels like they made the problem worse. They did some adjusting and that hurt like hell. So then they gave me a shot in my lower back, and gave me an RX for Nap.roxen. They said the shot will hopefully help within 24 hrs. Man I really hope so because whatever they did my back is so much worse now. So I have been laid up...I am sensing a theme lately. Hopefully I will feel better soon cause this SUCKS!!!

In other news it has been warm here the last few days. Yesterday it was in the 60's and today I believe the 50's. I hear it is not going to last long but I will take it whenever I can get it. It is raining like crazy here but I'd rather the rain and not snow.

DH's gramma is doing well. She had surgery to clear the side with the 100% blockage and they put a stint in that side. They said they will be sending her home in 3 days so that is good news. So now they just need to decide where they are going to have her because nobody wants her to go home by herself any more since she isn't really all that able to help herself any more.

Well that is all that is going on with me. I hope all is well with you. Have a great rest of the week!